The three questions.
Personal beliefs, meaning the things we believe to be true and real in this world, will manifest themselves in our lives. When I first started to shoot for the North American Hairstyling Awards, I thought about winning and about delivering my thank you speech, constantly. Overtime it became reality. Everything around us will be a mirror of those personal beliefs. Similarly, I constantly thought about having a super-successful salon with world-class training programs, and that thought also became reality. Beliefs, both positive and negative, that you carry around within yourself and believe to be true, will form your world.
I challenge you to ponder, “What are my personal beliefs?”
Anytime you have a thought/belief run through your mind, or verbally spoken, I’d like for you to ask yourself 3 questions:
- Where did the thought come from?
- Is it true?
- Will it help or hurt me?
A simple exercise that I use when teaching is as follows: I ask the audience if they are good or terrible at remembering names. When I ask if they are good at remembering names, two or three hands in the room are raised. When I ask if they are terrible at remembering names, almost everyone raises their hand. Then I ask, were you born not being able to remember names? Everyone agrees that they were not. I dig deeper by asking them how they became terrible at remembering names. The answer is that it was a belief that once-upon-a-time had manifested itself and became a part of their real world.
As you ask yourself the three questions listed above you will find that the bulk of the thoughts that you carry with you every day are completely and utterly false. You are what you say you are. You are what you think you are. So think big! Take those beliefs and manifest them into big things, big thinking. Had I not done so early on in my life I would not be speaking to thousands of hairstylists and salon owners every year, and I would not have written this article.